This isn’t exactly what people think when they hear self-care, but having good friends is such a huge factor of people’s emotional state that I don’t think people emphasize enough.
“You are the average of the five people you most associate with.”
College has taught me a lot, but I think the most important lesson I’ve learned here is who I want to be and who I want to surround myself. I never really realized the bubble lived in back home. Everyone I had been friends with were people that had the same basic morals and values I had, and even though we didn’t agree on everything, fundamentally we understood each other.
Coming to a whole new environment, it was a bit of a shock to be with people who just fundamentally didn’t have the same kind of values I had. And even if we got along, there were some things that I had to try really hard to deal with, and that was really hard to accept at first.
Before my parents left, my mom gave me some advice:
“Don’t only make friends with people who look and think like you.”
I had never really understood what she meant until I got here. This is something I think about a lot, because I know how easy it is to surround yourself with people like you, and unconsciously make yourself pretty ignorant to the world.
At the same time, you need to keep in mind the kind of things you value and what you stand for. And with that, not let people change you for the sake of being more like them. Especially if it’s for the worse.
I’m someone who really mirrors people I’m around, so I especially need to be conscious of who I’m surrounding myself with.
While you can feel like it’s your job to fix people and see the best person they can be, sometimes you need to step back and think of yourself. Take the time to think: is this what I want my life to look like?
Whatever you decide, and whoever you think is someone important enough to you to impact your life in such a huge way, I hope you guys are all living your best life and have a great weekend! There are more posts to come about sorority and college life — spring break is also coming up so stay tuned, it should be a good one!!