Shame and Vulnerability

I know society puts a lot of pressure on you to be perfect–to be the student, the athlete, the prom queen… And not only that, but you have to be the BEST student, the BEST athlete, and the PRETTIEST prom queen all at the same time. It’s an impossible task, but most people around you seem like they have it all together. There’s never any vulnerability on Instagram, where the only parts of people’s lives you see are strategically plotted out so it looks like they live on a beach in some remote paradise, when in reality, they’re crying over a chemistry test or a struggling friendship or just not feeling like they’re enough… Just like you. That’s the big secret that no one wants to tell anyone: no one has it 100% together.

I’ve been struggling a lot with this too, and I told my mom how I just felt… tired. There was no other way to put it. She told me about a woman, Brene Brown, who has studied shame for years. She has TedTalks, a website to browse through, and a few books. I listened to about one of her TedTalks yesterday that was about 20 minutes long and I was literally getting chills up and down my arms because what she was saying resonated with me so deeply. She talks about vulerabilty and courage and everything everyone is afraid to talk about–and it’s so moving. I thought, if these videos are helping me so much, maybe it will help someone else, so I thought I could point you guys in the right direction if you feel like what you’ve been doing hasn’t been enough.

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